January 20, 2018

5 Ways to Feel Good in a Bathing Suit (For Your Kids)


mother daughter poolI really hate everything about swimsuits. I hate how much they cost. I hate that despite the fact that I wear a size six, I need to buy a large bathing suit (yes, I just bought two large suits last night at Target). I hate that even though I work out five or six days a week, I look like I need to work out five or six more days a week. Worst of all, I hate actually having to put on said swimsuit, so I try to avoid it at all costs.

I need to get over this swimsuit aversion. I know I do. I know that my kids will never, ever remember how I looked in a bathing suit. They will only remember that I didn’t swim in the pool with them, that I didn’t splash in the ocean with them and that I didn’t ride down the lazy river with them (at least not every time). It makes me sad.

We’re headed to Florida next week to visit my in-laws and inevitably I will need to put on a swimsuit, and probably more than once. My in-laws have a pool at their house and live near the beach. Breaking out the bathing suit is a certainty. I must get over my issues, so I put together five tips to help me (and you) out:

1. Seriously, Nobody Cares What You Look Like: Maybe it’s because all the swimsuit models look perfect (yes, I realize they’re airbrushed), so I feel like I need to look the same way. I’m 39. It’s never going to happen. I need to get over myself and realize that nobody is looking at me and nobody really cares what I look like in a swimsuit.

2. Wear What Feels Comfortable: Whether a one-piece, a bikini or a two-piece with a bathing skirt, just wear what feels comfortable. Last night, I tried on an old swimsuit that was too tight. That wasn’t going to work. I have some bikinis too from past seasons, and standing up I look okay, but after four kids, my stomach isn’t what it used to be when I bend over. I just wasn’t going to feel good.

3. Cover Up, If You Prefer: When you get in the water, you obviously can’t wear a sarong or a cover-up, but you can choose a swimsuit that covers up the parts you want to downplay. Honestly, I just feel better wearing a one-piece suit that covers my stomach. I don’t need to worry every time I bend over, and I feel much better about myself. 

4. Wear Sunglasses: For whatever reason, I just feel more confident with sunglasses. Maybe I feel like people can’t see me with sunglasses on. I don’t know. Whatever it is, whether sunglasses, a hat or something else, find something that makes you feel extra confident and put it on when donning your favorite swimsuit.

5. Just Get Out and Splash, Often: I like to think that the more time you spend wearing your swimsuit in public, the more confident you will feel about yourself. It makes it hard when you only put on a bathing suit a few times a year, so this year I’ll strive to get out there more often. I’m pretty sure the ladies at the neighborhood pool don’t care what I look like anyway.

Do you have any great tips for feeling more comfortable in a swimsuit? Let me know in the comments section below.

Photo Credit: spinadelic


  1. no extra tips…but I had a LOL moment when I read “wear sunglasses” because i do that alllllllllll the time…clearly it doesn’t make me invisible, it doesn”t even make me less recognizable….but it does for whatever reason boost my comfort level when at the beach.
    So thanks…for hitting it right on the head.
    Have a great time in Florida!

  2. It’s so true, I totally remember my mom not playing in the pool with us as kids. I feel the same way about swim suites but I love to be in the water and it’s way too much fun to splash with my kids. =)

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